Yup, me too.
And I’ll show you a quick way to turn that around.
But first let’s take a look at a primary cause.
(Hint: And it’s not because you have too much to do.)
Who’s Calling the Shots?
In these fascinating days of interconnection, with web surfing, wiki everything, and gadgets galore, rarely a day goes by that we aren’t influenced by other people.
Yet most of our connections have a tiny hidden cost.
Around the holidays especially, with all kinds of parties and family gatherings, there are usually a lot of quiet demands on us. There are tenacious old patterns, unspoken expectations, and assumed obligations, all sneaking a little piece of our attention.
Or maybe like me, you’re learning some new skills and have a lot of “teachers” in your life. We absorb what they tell us like sponges. We watch who does it right and who does it wrong. We listen to what to do and then how to do it better.
Whatever the situation, we’re often so constantly connected that we don’t notice that little pieces of our attention are “out there”, scattered all over the place. And this is true even when the influences are good ones.
Before you know it, the voices of everyone else create a cacophony and added together are much louder than your own. To make matters worse, they don’t all say the same thing, in fact they often say the exact opposite.
They pull you every which way.
If you check in with yourself, you notice you’re scattered, spacey, off balance, and drained. You’re easily distracted. Maybe even little health issues are popping up or you find yourself mindlessly eating all that “bad” stuff. Again.
An Effective Practice
Believe it or not, there’s a quick and easy way to reclaim yourself. It’s something I discovered quite a few years back.
I’ve done this many times and every single time I’m amazed at what a huge difference it makes.
You’ll suddenly be calm and balanced. Collected, centered, and grounded. Best of all you’ll feel congruent and integrated again.
And it’s so simple.
You are going to pull yourself together. Literally.
“This is really America in therapy, people trying to get themselves together and be whole.”David S. Viscott
A quick study of the words whole, holy, holistic, and health shows that they are all related. No surprise, is it? And holy is “that which must be preserved whole or intact, that cannot be transgressed or violated”.
Sounds pretty good to be whole, doesn’t it?
How to do it
It’s so easy.
1) First of all, decide you want to be all in one place again. Whole. (Speaking of words, did you know “decide” comes from the Latin decidere, to cut off? This is what you are doing when you decide, cutting away from the other options, the distractions.)
Deciding alone is a powerful step.
Do it right now. Can you feel the difference?
2) Next, be aware that all your connections are like tendrils going out from your body and connecting with everyone who’s influencing you.
Take a look at them in your mind’s eye, and who they are connected to. Who is influencing you? Who are the first few people who come to mind? Who are you trying to please? Or learn from? Or who are you trying to influence? Who are you keeping tabs on?
A few will be obvious, and you don’t need to worry about the ones that aren’t.
Spend a minute or so doing this.
3) And finally, just disconnect your tendrils and pull them all back in to yourself.
You can do them one by one, in groups, or all at once — whichever seems most effective for you.
See them all receding back in, so that you are a smooth, egg-shaped energy system.
Then put your focus on you … and take a few moments to notice how soothing and solid that feels.
And you’re done!
Don’t be fooled by how simple and obvious this sounds. It’s really powerful.
When I do this, I immediately feel a shift in my energy. Then for days — and I’m not kidding — I have so much energy I barely know what to do with it all.
I feel clear and uncluttered. I have laser-beam focus without even trying.
You’ll find that you not only feel much better, but you are much more effective at what is important to you. Even when you’ve got lots to do, you’re able to focus calmly on your priorities.
And best of all, you can still work and play with others but your own presence is more concentrated. And your relationships are more healthy again.
If you find the need to do this, I’d love to hear what your results were. Or do it preventively, even better.
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