Several of my siblings and I were from out of town and were staying at his home. I’d been feeling his presence strongly, and made it a point during the days surrounding the funeral to take some quiet time alone to connect with him.
On one of these occasions I was telling him I loved him. I was crying and my heart was wide open.
And just as I said “Dad, I love you so much.” I heard, almost as if someone were in the room with me:
“You are love.”
I was struck by both the clarity and the simplicity of how the message came through, and what it implied. Also by how strongly it rang true.
Over the course of the next weeks and months, I found comfort in that experience. It really felt like I’d had a goodbye connection with Dad. I don’t know for sure but can’t explain otherwise how that message could have come through so strongly.
When we divided up Dad’s belongings, my sister got Dad’s wedding ring. It gave me an idea. A few months later I bought a ring to wear to remind me of Dad and the message I was given. I’ve since lost it but replaced it with this one that’s even more fitting, which I wear all the time. (Don’t you just love that it has wings? I won’t even start with the symbolism of that!)
As time’s gone on, I’ve found the message valuable in itself. It comes to mind often. It’s an interesting and useful idea to me. It’s a reminder of what I feel and believe we are; what our essence is.
It means that love is our natural state of being. Or maybe it’s even more simple than that, independent of states … or “being” even. We just are it! We just are love, and we couldn’t not be it even if we tried!
We don’t have to do anything out of the ordinary to “try” to love, to try to be compassionate, to try to forgive, etc.
Of course, that doesn’t mean we automatically do those things. It doesn’t mean we always express ourselves as the love that we are, showing constant compassion and forgiveness. Or even confrontation when it’s called for, and those aspects of expressing love that require courage, that are not all sugar and spice on the surface.
I’m seeing more and more that this life is about our stripping away that which is not us so that what we are (love?) can shine its light.
Not additive, but subtractive.
As simple as that profound message I was given on that special day.
♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
So, you probably notice I’m having a little love fest this month. I’m between Valentine’s Day and my wedding anniversary (hmm, I guess that’s always true, isn’t it?!)
Plus, I’m listening to my heart a lot. And that feels like love (or something really good)!
I’m interested to hear what you might have to say about love. Do you think it’s an action or an essence, a way of being? Do you think it’s something we can add unto ourselves or others?
Do you think you are it?
Even more, I’d love to hear if you’ve ever received any messages that were brand new in the moment yet held up over time, like this one has for me. Surely you must have! Are you willing to share them?
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