Feb 142012
 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Wishing you sweet love.

This is short and sweet today because — speaking of love — I’m spending a week with my awesome son and his wonderful little family in northern CA. I’m doing my best to play catch-up with my almost-2-yr.-old granddaughter. :-)

And if I work it right, I’m going to get to meet Sarah who lives near them, and who writes the fantastic blog Wellness – The Natural Way.

And … just about now, I’m on my way home to my sweet sweet man. :-)

Love love love!

But if you want a little something more than good love wishes, I’m serving up one of my favorite posts about love:

A Message About Your Relationship to Love

Something rather startling happened to me in late 1992, soon after my dad passed away. It was both comforting and revelatory in its simple wisdom. [more *magic*]

Wishing you the best that today can possibly offer. Thanks for being in my life.

Mar 312011
 

Tapping into some “magic”  just won me a valuable and exciting new learning experience.

A few weeks ago I entered a contest to win Hiro Boga’s course How to Rule Your World. To enter we were to write a post about why we are ready to rule our world.

Well, I’m excited to announce that I won the contest!

And a touch of “magic” played the starring role.

Everyday Magic

How it all happened is a perfect example of using our own magic — this time in the form of intuition and play — in our everyday lives.

I’ll show why it can pay (literally, as this course I won goes for $250, and will surely lead to even more opportunities) to listen to our hearts and intuition instead of just our heads.

Some Head Talk

Are you an intellectual? Rule-follower? People-pleaser? Want to be part of the in-crowd? I admit I can be any or all of these in any given situation.

For this contest, I automatically assumed I should write strictly about the topic suggested. I had very definite rules in my head about how I was supposed to do it.

But see that word “should”? And even “supposed to”? Well, first, I’ve learned to be wary of my ideas where a “should” is involved. If nothing else, it’s at least good to be aware that I’m using a “should” so I can make a more conscious choice. (They’re pretty sneaky, those shoulds.)

And you have to follow the rules to win, right? That’s what I was taught and believed most of my life.

But life itself has shown me otherwise. Rules don’t always deliver on their promise. And they have their place, but we’re not automatons.

An Alternative Source of Wisdom

So regardless of my should-y and rule-following subconscious and rational thoughts about it all, this time I was inspired to get my direction straight from my heart.

Since this contest involved posting my entry on my blog, and my blog is about metaphysics and the subtle realms, I decided to ask for and listen to a subtle message from the “spirit” or “soul” of my blog itself.

Some Heart Talk

So I asked. And I heard.

And what I heard didn’t match what my head was saying at all.

Often and ideally, the head and heart will mesh. But not always. In this case, they definitely didn’t. I didn’t expect the answer to be so out of synch.

The message I got was to write a post about a Deva. Huh?

Deciding whether to do this wasn’t a no-brainer. I really did deliberate for awhile about it. I mean, I really did want to win. That was the reason I was even writing the post to begin with.

My rational mind argued that writing about Devas was not a smart move. Not at all.

But ultimately, I made the decision to follow the heart/guidance. In truth, I didn’t make even that decision from just my head, but more from all of me. I could even say I simply felt compelled, and just quit thinking about it and did it.

So… I proceeded to enter my post about Devas. It tells you how to connect with the Deva of your current creative project for guidance and assistance, and I talk a little about my decision-making process there too.

And as of right now, I see it’s the most popular post on my blog — another bonus for listening to my heart!

Head or Heart?

In retrospect, I see that there was a handful of factors that came into play as I made my decision.

When you’re trying to decide between your rational mind and an intuitive urge, asking yourself these questions may help you make the best choice.

1) Did the intuitive message come through clearly and strongly?

If so, that’s a good sign that paying attention to it is a good idea.

Ironically, it’s often because it’s very clear and very strong that we assume we must be making it up. This is where it takes trust and practice to recognize that it is wise guidance.

2) Do you value your intuitive wisdom and do you want to honor it?

This may be the key to what decision you make. If you worship the god of intellect above all else, then of course you will feel safer doing what your head says.

But if you recognize that we all have innate, intuitive access to much more information than our minds could ever possibly grok, then a good step in strengthening your access to that information is to honor it.

That means to respect it and exercise it when practical.

As you do this your appreciation of it will grow since  more often than not it will lead you in a delightfully positive direction.

3) Are you willing and able to let go of your vested interest in a particular outcome?

If you are, and if you do, you can be more assured that the guidance you get is more trustworthy.

In my case, as much as I wanted to win, I wanted more to enjoy the moment, put out a post I liked, and play with my intuitive skills. So I decided to treat it as a lark. Whether or not I won, I was going to have fun entering. And I did! I very much enjoyed every moment of writing that post.

4) Are you willing to engage the spirit of play?

If you are, you have 3 advantages:

- You’re able to access your intuition much more easily.
- It’ll be easier to value and honor your heart’s guidance instead of just your head’s.
- You’ll likely enjoy the end result no matter which path you choose.

See if you can enjoy responding to life in each moment rather than try to control it or follow rigid rules.

When you play, you open to wherever it may take you. You joyfully enter the flow of life where lots of fun surprises inevitably drift your way.

Can you do that? Do you want to?

I’m certain that my willingness to play in this situation is what allowed me to make the choice I did.

5) Can you hedge your bets?

This is allowed. No rules, remember? There’s almost always a way to play it safe — but still play it.

In this case, I did two things.

First, everything in me insisted on writing a post that had a point and was helpful; one that didn’t merely indulge my whims. This made too much sense not to do it, so I wrote with these things in mind.

And secondly, since it was a contest entry after all, I simply added a section to the end answering the questions that I was supposed to answer.

And even with all my good advice about intuition, I guess it’s possible that without that section, I wouldn’t have won the contest.

Who knows?

Of course, following our hearts doesn’t always lead to a “win”. But whether or not it does, it’s been my experience that at some level it leads to something good for me as well as for the world at large.

In this case, though, it did lead to a win, and I’m taking it as a confirmation. Not only that is was a good move for me, but that it’s something worth sharing with you.

Will that lead to another instance of magic, this time for you? You tell me. ;-)

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Feb 212011
 

Something rather startling happened to me in late 1992, soon after my dad passed away. It was both comforting and revelatory in its simple wisdom.

Several of my siblings and I were from out of town and were staying at his home. I’d been feeling his presence strongly, and made it a point during the days surrounding the funeral to take some quiet time alone to connect with him.

On one of these occasions I was telling him I loved him. I was crying and my heart was wide open.

And just as I said “Dad, I love you so much.” I heard, almost as if someone were in the room with me:

“You are love.”

I was struck by both the clarity and the simplicity of how the message came through, and what it implied. Also by how strongly it rang true.

Over the course of the next weeks and months, I found comfort in that experience. It really felt like I’d had a goodbye connection with Dad. I don’t know for sure but can’t explain otherwise how that message could have come through so strongly.

When we divided up Dad’s belongings, my sister got Dad’s wedding ring. It gave me an idea. A few months later I bought a ring to wear to remind me of Dad and the message I was given. I’ve since lost it but replaced it with this one that’s even more fitting, which I wear all the time. (Don’t you just love that it has wings? I won’t even start with the symbolism of that!)

As time’s gone on, I’ve found the message valuable in itself. It comes to mind often. It’s an interesting and useful idea to me. It’s a reminder of what I feel and believe we are; what our essence is.

It means that love is our natural state of being. Or maybe it’s even more simple than that, independent of states … or “being” even. We just are it! We just are love, and we couldn’t not be it even if we tried!

We don’t have to do anything out of the ordinary to “try” to love, to try to be compassionate, to try to forgive, etc.

Of course, that doesn’t mean we automatically do those things. It doesn’t mean we always express ourselves as the love that we are, showing constant compassion and forgiveness. Or even confrontation when it’s called for, and those aspects of expressing love that require courage, that are not all sugar and spice on the surface.

I’m seeing more and more that this life is about our stripping away that which is not us so that what we are (love?) can shine its light.

Not additive, but subtractive.

Simple.

As simple as that profound message I was given on that special day.

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

So, you probably notice I’m having a little love fest this month. I’m between Valentine’s Day and my wedding anniversary (hmm, I guess that’s always true, isn’t it?!)

Plus, I’m listening to my heart a lot. And that feels like love (or something really good)!

I’m interested to hear what you might have to say about love. Do you think it’s an action or an essence, a way of being? Do you think it’s something we can add unto ourselves or others?

Do you think you are it?

Even more, I’d love to hear if you’ve ever received any messages that were brand new in the moment yet held up over time, like this one has for me. Surely you must have! Are you willing to share them?

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