Oct 092013
 

Interconnected OneLife has much more richness and depth to it when you can live it consciously. And a highly  rewarding and straightforward way of being conscious is to recognize the interconnectivity of everything.

At the same time, even  saying “every-thing”  implies that there are separate things — and of course, there are, in this dualistic dimension.

Interconnectivity & Oneness

But a better way to approach this idea is  to recognize that  everything is not just connected, it’s all one.

At that level, there isn’t even a thing and a no-thing, it’s all just one. One whole thing.

So it’s great if you can recognize at least the interconnectivity of everything, and better yet: the oneness.

And this means living in a holistic manner.

Knowing vs. Believing

It also helps to keep in mind that this doesn’t mean just thinking it’s likely so.

It means re-cognizing it, or “knowing it again”.

When you tap into the feeling and/or knowingness of this reality, of oneness, you can’t help but be more consciously aware.

Your antennae are on the lookout for connections.

And then, as you actively look for connections and interrelationships, you’ll notice that you have greater access to your own intuitive wisdom.

It means that those birds up there are not separate from what’s going on with your upcoming party. Hunh?

A Lesson from the Ravens

A few years ago, I had invited a group of people for a dinner party.

I was providing all the food and had been preparing for days. 7 people had RSVP’d, and I had planned accordingly.

But that morning, I was sitting in our outdoor jacuzzi, and suddenly there was a ruckus overhead. As I looked up, I saw 4 ravens flying right overhead.

Something about them seemed significant. Suddenly, I just “knew” what it was.

“Only 4 will be coming for dinner!” I gasped. Intellectually, I found it hard to believe — but I trusted that intuitive message.

And sure enough. 3 of the 7 people were no-shows. Didn’t even call!

So yes, those birds, and me, and the party, and the future, were all connected. Were all one.

Of course, holistic applies in other areas as well, or rather — framing that in a holistic way, where there are no “other areas”.

It applies everywhere to everything.

So, the whole supports being whole!

Holistic Health and Well-Being

We especially see this idea applied to health. And no accident, since both words, health and holistic (which has a related form, “wholistic”) come from the same root: whole.

It behooves us, when encountering any kind of health puzzle, to expand our vision from the part(s) to the whole. Open to what is going on in the entire system (i.e. body, emotions, environment, etc.) and often, just this opening reveals all kinds of ideas about how to make corrections and adjustments.

(I’ve got a great example I’ve been applying recently with what could have been a very serious health condition — but one story is enough for one post. I’ll just say that to my delight, I’ve confirmed that working with it holistically has turned it around 180°!)

Today:

Recognize, i.e. know again, the wholeness that is inherent in all … or rather, in the one. Allow (or even request) that knowing to reflect back to you whenever it’s helpful; whenever seeing the “whole” picture will benefit you.

You might even look for ways to apply this idea, for example: health conditions, situations that are occurring in your life, etc.

NOTE: I wasn’t even looking, but I just went for a short walk and couldn’t help but notice the ravens are super active today! I think they’re trying to say hello, and/or it’s the universe reconfirming today’s idea of its holistic nature. Anyway, so that you can be a part of it, I did a quick little one-minute video of some of their activity around here today. It will also give you a little taste of New Mexico. Enjoy!

So please take a look at how wholeness and/or oneness shows up in your life – and notice how that idea can be useful to you. :-)

Until next time!

Namasté.

Patti

Jan 082013
 

Hello all you powerful creators!

What fantastic creations are emerging through YOU this year?

I’ve spent part of each day this past week asking myself that same question.

And I want to share a process I’ve been using that will help you access your own power to create what your soul wants to bring into the world.

Dreams and Practicalities

I’ve been so enjoying making my way through Leonie Dawson’s Create Your Incredible Year Workbook, Planner & Calendar. Just a dent so far, but a powerful one!

And the more I get into it, the more I love it.

She stimulates your dreaming muscles, yet has an enlivening way of lifting your spirits even while she leads you through the practical steps of planning. It’s a perfect combination. (And as a hugely successful and creative woman, she knows of what she speaks!)

Unlike a lot of planning tools, one of the things she does that I’ve already gotten so much out of is she guides you through a review of your past year before you jump into the next.

I can’t believe I hadn’t thought of it before, but it’s extremely wise to evaluate the things that didn’t work, and why. (Of course, you also get to appreciate the gifts and successes.)

I’ve gotten so much valuable insight already, I can’t begin to tell you.

It’s so invigorating!

Get and Stay Connected With Yourself

Another thing I’ve been doing on my own, just to make sure I’m clearly connected with my essence as I dream and plan, is I take regular, short (3-minutes or less) connection times with my own be-ing.

I started out using a timer but as I’ve gotten into the swing of it, am no longer needing that.

The advantage is that it opens you to the space where your inspirations reside.

Or rather, it keeps you open to it.

It also helps you get down to what’s really going on. And easily.

Do you ever notice how, when you wake up in the morning, you’re in a super intuitive & creative space?

If you’re like me, that’s when a lot of exciting ideas come flooding in.

This also happens when you’re relaxed and not in “thinking mode”, e.g. taking a walk, relaxing in the jacuzzi, driving long deserted stretches, etc.

Touching in periodically with that space of no-mind reconnects you with that same state.

It’s where our power and intuitive wisdom reside.

It’s so simple it’s almost silly to even outline it here, but I will anyway.

A 3-Step Connection Exercise

As you sit down to work, set a timer for once every 1/2 hour or so. When it goes off (and also once as you begin) take a moment to touch in like so:

1. Take a deep breath in and as you do so, place your attention at your 3rd-eye area (between your eyebrows).

2. Exhale slowly and as you do so, relax your whole body. You’ll notice your shoulders drop.

3. Now as you finish exhaling, immediately drop one more level by moving your attention from your 3rd-eye down to your heart area. You can envision a little elevator taking you from your head to your heart.

Do you feel the difference? How still and quiet it is? Then you’re connected.

Gently hold your attention there awhile.

There’s no need to try to get a sense of anything. In fact, it’s best to simply notice the stillness for awhile.

That’s it! As you do this periodically, you’ll benefit from these brief “re-groupings” and you’ll notice that a wonderful clarity remains with you as you work.

There will be space between your thoughts for ideas and inspiration to enter your awareness.

Those ideas are coming from your essence, and opening to them keeps you on track to fulfill your deepest dreams.

A Match Made in Heaven

A glimpse of the spirit within the pages.

What’s becoming more and more clear to me as I practice this, is that Leonie’s workbook is a tight match to my own spirit.

The further you progress, the closer you feel to your own heart and soul.

And it keeps you in such an optimistic and enthused space. No drudgery in this process, I promise!

If you want to get your own, you can! I highly recommend it. (Treat yourself!)

Just go to her Workbook page and check it out.

It’s a teeny-tiny investment for a BIG payoff.

The enjoyment you’ll get from using it is itself a huge gift you can give yourself.

And I just know that the world, too, will much appreciate the creations you will offer as a result. :-)

With encouragement and joy,
Patti

 

 

[BTW, I am an affiliate for Leonie's workbooks since I love her work so much. She puts her heart, soul, and wisdom into it and you always get way more than you expect.]

Dec 092011
 

Have you gotten a bit more in touch with your body this past week? I’m happy to report that I have, and my body and spirit are both delighted.

This is the end of Week 2 of the 10 week online course “The Answer is Simple”. Sonia’s topic this week was to  “Welcome Your Spirit” by loving your body as its sacred temple.

Did you?

(If you’re just joining us, the entire course is offered free by Sonia Choquette, and some of us are working it together here with a discussion at the end of each week. Join us!)

Love Your Body

Sonia reminded us to be attentive to our body, to embrace it, and to give it what it needs to thrive.

I took it as a reminder to be more conscious of both my body and my indwelling spirit. For me, being more attentive brought to mind all kinds of ideas and experiences I’d like to share. (But as I started to, I realized that each one is a post in itself. I don’t need to overwhelm you with it all right now. ;-) ) But ultimately, being reminded of all these things helped strengthen my conscious connection between body and spirit.

Her main point, I think, was to appreciate our bodies as the sacred vessels for our life force or spirit. She points out that it’s our body that gives us the ability to “think and choose and move and create”, and that it’s a gift. And she goes on to encourage us to respect and honor it, to love it unconditionally, and then, importantly, to express and act on that.

Your Body as a Manifestation of Spirit

As to the fact that we’re often critical of our bodies, she points out that your body is the perfect one for you, and that it’s a gift. I totally and completely agree. I mean, how blessed are we? Crazy blessed, I’d say!

Like last week, though — and for the sake of our discussion — I would put it a subtly different way.

My own intuitive sense is that your body is the main (although not only) point of manifestation for your being. This is slightly different than the temple idea in that your body doesn’t encompass your being like a temple, since your being is not confined to your body. More accurately, your body is the part of your beingness that is manifesting directly in this 3-D world.

So by necessity and by definition, your body exactly matches who you are in your essence. It’s merely the more dense part of that same pattern which is you.

Do you have any thoughts on this? Or what did this bring up for you this week?

Be Attentive to Your Body

Sonia’s recommendations for putting these ideas into practice this week were:

1. Pay attention to how your body responds to things, e.g. to thoughts, to sound (including how you speak of it). She gave a lot of examples of thanking it out loud.

2. Give it the basics (water, rest and what it needs to get this e.g. pillow, white noise, lotion, foot rub, etc.)

I’d been in the process of some major “maintenance” ;-) , i.e. dental work, routine checkups, therapy on my arm and shoulder (if you’re a blogger or writer, watch your ergonomics!), etc. and have been paying much attention to this area already.

It’s not so much that I’m communing with and loving it in a lovey-dovey way as I’m doing the practical things that it needs.

Still, it does appreciate it, I can tell. :-)

I also intend to keep a good bit of my time free over the holidays so I can tend to my health with some of the many effective holistic practices I enjoy.

3. Speak kindly to and about your body. It hears it. Spirit loves having a body.

Here it’s about loving your body unconditionally.

Sonia says that the more you love it, the more your body will become the body that you idealize. Hmmm, I’d not thought of it that way and haven’t experimented with this yet but I’m going to. Stay tuned for an updated, ravishing me!

She ends this suggestion by recommending you treat your body well and that if you do, you’ll attract all kinds of wonderful things.

4. Don’t let an hour go by that you don’t appreciate it or do something for it.

Wow. I tried this and it’s easy to forget. But it did help bring more body awareness and appreciation into my life this week, both welcome things!

Did you do any or all of these things? Or did you improvise some of your own? What were they and what did you find?

And now … On to week 3! See you again soon!

P.S. Eliza over at Silver & Grace has released an inspiring ebook featuring some talented women writers … plus me. :-) Click on the image to the left to grab a FREE copy, and check out my new guest post as well as her gracious article about me as one of the ebook contributors.


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Dec 062011
 

I used to have an ambivalent relationship with holidays.

I loved them because I got to be away from work, do some special activities, and see friends or family that I didn’t get to see regularly.

At the same time, I dreaded holidays because they always got stressful. Even when I made reasonable plans, my commitments inevitably multiplied like bunnies and before I knew it, I was frazzled and distracted, doing things I’d rather not, and all with an obligatory smile plastered on my face.

But all that changed soon after I met my husband. He had begun a practice of going to Yosemite for Christmas.

When I first considered going, I knew immediately it wouldn’t work. I mean, what about all my holiday “stuff”?

Getting together with family on Christmas eve?

Christmas dinner and all it involves?

What about all the presents I had to buy? And wrap? And pack? And send? And give in person?

The cards I had to write and mail?

The tree to buy and decorate?

All the boxes of Christmas decorations to unpack and put out, and then pack away again.

All the cookies I had to bake?

All the Christmas parties to flit around to?

What about donations to the needy, the service work to do?

On and on. And on and on. Aggh!

But alas … Christmas in Yosemite sure did sound heavenly!

So I began thinking about how to do most of my other stuff ahead of time. Yes! I could do it before and while preparing for the 5 day trip to Yosemite! But the thought of that just freaked me out.

And then it hit me.

I had been moving through all my holiday activities like an automaton. Sure, I enjoyed some of them, and some of them touched my heart.

But most of them were not enjoyable or meaningful at all, or they added so much stress and took so much time or money that they were just not worth it to me.

A New and Improved Way to Do Holidays

And for the first time, I began to make conscious choices about how I wanted to spend the holidays.

I let all the had-to’s and shoulds just fall away in favor of the want-to’s.

We went to Yosemite at Christmas for a number of years and it was *magical*. We used the heater in our little cabin as our imaginary fireplace and opened our few little gifts to each other. We went to the fancy Bracebridge dinner at the Ahwahnee, a lavish affair with an 8-course meal. We ate bad food in the brightly lit and nearly empty cafeteria and had lovely exchanges with the cafeteria workers, and oddly, that remains one of our happiest memories. And I’ll never forget being in the tiny chapel there with snow falling gently outside, while 2 young kids in front of us fought loudly over the candles for the candle-light service. My heart soared and I laughed and cried at the same time.

Those experiences enriched my life and made me a better person.

This was the point of Christmas.

Connect with the Holiday Spirit

You, too, can trade in your stressful pile of obligations for free time (*gasp*) where you can connect with the special meaning that each holiday embodies by nurturing its lovely spirit and bringing it to life.

You can make the holiday spirit a significant part of your experience instead of something fleeting you try to grasp or catch a quick glimpse of in-between commitments that have gotten out of control.

Examine Your Assumptions

Examine each thing you do and every person you connect with and ask yourself why you do it.

Did you merely “inherit” it and now just do it without choosing to do it? Without realizing you don’t have to?

Are you allowing others’ expectations to overly influence you?

Do you enjoy doing these things?

Do you enjoy being with these people? (Yes, ask this about family. Maybe especially about family.)

Can you afford it easily or does it add undue stress?

What are the results? Are they worth the investment of time and money?

Maybe you’ll find that some of these things really are where you want to put your energy. Good! Now you know. And the rest you can consider letting go of.

What Makes Your Heart Sing?

There are always trade-offs. So it helps to consider if there are things you might like to do instead.

Maybe you want to leave the newly freed-up time alone. Allow it to just be there and spontaneously enjoy it when it comes around … or not.

Or use your creative spirit to brainstorm some fresh, new ideas that have some life to them.

What does this holiday mean to you? How can you express that?

Who do you love? What do you care about? Do you want to make a connection or contribution?

What do you enjoy? What makes your heart sing? Don’t you deserve to commune with the spirit of the holiday for your benefit as well as for others’?

With just a little deliberate forethought, and feeling into your own heart, you can make the holidays a time to go deep instead of wasting them on meaningless, superficial activities.

Unless you like superficial! It does have its place. The point is to make conscious choices.

Give Yourself Permission

You’re a grown-up now, and no-one is the boss of you.

You don’t need to follow in the old traditions automatically. Of course, if you love them, then yes, indeed!

But spare yourself being an automaton for as long as I was. You can break free now.

Watch What Happens

If you’re like me, you’ll be surprised to find that the things you cut out are not missed. And if they are, well, you can do them next year. You can even do them just because. If they have value, do they need a holiday to go with? Maybe not.

As to the people you usually spend holidays with, perhaps they need to adjust to your new way, but they’ll come around before you know it. You’ll likely find that it’s not nearly so traumatic on them as you imagine.

And the time you do decide to spend with people is much more meaningful when you do it because you genuinely want to be with them.

Nowadays, my list is pared waaaay down. This year, we’re having a low-key holiday. We may or may not decorate, we’ll have a delicious meal that is simple to prepare, and I’ll give a few heartfelt gifts to my son and his family. (They may do a road-trip and arrive on our doorstep. If they do, I’ve got plenty of extra time to spend with them.) Lots of children — too many — in our area need hats and gloves (can you imagine?), and that’s my service/donation priority this season.

And that’s plenty.

It leaves me space to touch in regularly with the spirit of this beautiful season, and see where it takes me in the moment.

I wish you many spirited moments of your own this holiday season.

Thanks for reading!

How do you spend your holidays? Are they spirited? Would love to hear!


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Nov 172011
 

Sometimes our pets will act peculiar, either for a little while or for an ongoing period.

Did you know that often it has more to do with what’s going on with you than with them?

They do what they can to keep you and your family in balance.

A few years ago someone asked me to use my Animal Communication skills to find out why her dog wouldn’t eat. She’d already had him to the vet (an important initial step) and knew it wasn’t a physical issue.

As I tuned in I got that his hesitancy to eat was somehow related to her (his owner). He was feeling her stress and anxiety which got the ball rolling, and then her stress around his not eating just made the situation worse.

I can’t remember all the details anymore but she was also trying to get him to eat certain things … things that were good for him, but ultimately I got a sense of her being a little obsessive about his food.

As I relayed this information to her, gently suggesting she not be so rigid about his diet because her anxiety about his food and his eating was actually a big part of the issue, she “happened to mention” to me that she was in the throes of an eating disorder. OMG!!!

In this situation, not only was her dog picking up her own issue around food, but also her anxiety around his food plus her anxiety in general. It doesn’t always happen that they act out in the same area of life where we’re having our issues (in this case, food), but this example was just too perfect not to share.

Even when the connection is as obvious as this, we sometimes don’t notice because our issues are not the first thing we think about when our pets have issues. In this example, even with the symptoms being so similar, it didn’t even occur to her that they even might be related until after we’d talked.

Our Pets Act Out Our Anxieties

Any anxiety you’re experiencing will be sensed by your pet and if it’s strong enough, they will begin to act it out.

Anxiety Not Related to Your Pet

In most cases our pets are acting out our stresses that don’t even have anything to do with them.

Maybe you’re worried about financial issues, health issues (your pets often match your symptoms almost exactly), or you’re just out of balance.

These things will definitely affect your pet.

Often they just help us process these things and are no worse for it. In fact that’s a supportive thing we all do for each other in general as part of a social unit. Just like a mobile, we all do our part to keep our family in balance, and our pets are very much a part of that dynamic.

But if it’s intense or prolonged, they’ll begin to show signs in their behavior or their own health.

Anxiety Related to Your Pet

Sometimes they act out anxiety that is related to them.

When it’s because of something they’re doing, it can create kind a mad cycle if what they’re doing is originally related to your anxiety. It just gets worse and worse until you stop the hamster wheel.

But often it’s simply something you’re concerned about because you love them so much and you want them to be happy all the time. (See, I have pets, I know!)

Like you’re going to board them and you don’t want them to be bored (interesting pun, don’t you think?), so you worry.

Or you’ll be traveling and you think they might miss you, so you worry.

Or they’re limping a little bit all of a sudden, so you worry.

Essentially, you have to stop that!

Easier said than done, I know.

What to Do Instead of Worry

First, just reading this and being aware is going to go a long way toward preventing or correcting this situation.

But here are a few ideas for when you see them acting out or even suspect it’s happening.

Better yet, doing these things as a matter of course will prevent your pets from needing to act out your anxiety to begin with.

1. Take care of yourself

If you’ve got deep, ongoing issues of some kind, try to make sure you don’t keep pushing them into the background. Do what you can about them now. What that might be is beyond the scope of this particular blog, but you know what I’m saying.

As in my example with the eating disorder, there can be things like addiction, depression, a bad marriage, a job you hate, etc. that can easily be affecting your pets. Please take care of yourself and they will benefit as well.

This goes for ongoing, serious things and passing issues as well.

2. Take it lightly

As to things related to your pet, be aware that they are very likely to reflect your attitude right back at you.

Are you a parent? Remember when your child took their first few steps, and landed *plop* right on their butt? You find out quickly that if you gasp and panic and run over to soothe them, they quickly pick up that it’s a scary thing and start to cry every time they fall. But if you make a surprised, fun face and say something like “Go boom!” and laugh like it’s fun, they’ll soon be laughing each time and scrambling up to do it again.

It’s the same with our pets, and using this little trick works in all kinds of situations.

3. Be optimistic

Once, during a turbulent flight, my young son and I were both getting nervous. I talked about how planes handle this all the time, and put on an unconcerned attitude. I was surprised to learn that pretending to be brave for his sake not only calmed him, but it had the wonderful side effect of actually allaying my fears too! Soon, I didn’t even have to pretend. And guess what? There was nothing to be nervous about!

Again, just like with our children, this dynamic works with our pets too.

So even if it’s something that might have a difficult outcome, you have a choice. You can make a conscious decision to focus on the positive. New or tentative situations can be an adventure rather than a threat. If and when difficulty actually develops, you can always deal with that then.

In the meantime, keep in your mind that right now all is well.

(If you’re familiar with the Law of Attraction you’ll recognize this as also being a way to help assure a good outcome, and you probably practice this already anyway.)

4. Remember your positive motivation and goals

If you find yourself anxious or concerned about an upcoming activity, remember that you’re doing it for a positive reason.

What is that reason? Keep it in the forefront of your mind.

This is important for personal situations but especially those related to our pets.

For example, your pet needs to go to the vet. We can think about how scared they’ll be when they have to ride in the car (ya right — this is cats, not dogs ;-) ), get examined, get a shot, etc.

But better yet, we can think about how lucky we are to have good vet care, their ears (or whatever reason they’re going for) will feel better, the vet is doing this for them not to them, etc. Even if it’s for euthanasia, they will be relieved of their pain and can fly free, etc.

Or if you’re going to board them, instead of worrying that they will miss you or that they’ll be bored, think about how safe and protected they are in a nice warm building with regular meals and that cozy blanket you left with them.

There’s always a positive or you wouldn’t be doing it. So stay focused on that.

All that said,  it’s important to also remember that animals are sovereign creatures just as we are. They have their reasons for being here, they are strong and magnificent beings, and they deserve to be able to grow through challenges just like we do. It helps all of us when we honor that. We can’t and perhaps shouldn’t try to protect them from everything.

5. Deliberately communicate positive ideas to them

If you haven’t already, you may want to develop the basic skill outlined in my first article of this series “The Very First Step in Communicating With Your Pet“. It gives a simple way to communicate telepathically with them so you have proof and confidence that your pets really are connected intimately with your inner goings-on.

If you commit to practicing it even a little, it pays off in the long run with greater peace of mind for you and like we’ve discussed here, with your pet’s peace of mind as a result of yours.

There are more things you can do that help you be at peace in relation to your pet, for example, touching in with them when you’re separated. But these things are skills (and articles) in themselves, and we’ll cover them and more in later articles in this Animal Communication series about how to connect more consciously with animals.

For now, the idea that you affect your pet profoundly is an important concept to be aware of and revisit often. The suggestions I’ve given are good skills to practice for the duration of your relationship with your pet.

Do you have any examples of when you were mirrored by your pet, or others by theirs? Were you/they aware of it at the time? If so, what did you/they do about it?

Sep 182011
 

Yikes, I thought, I’ve got way too much to get done! How can this be happening now?

Ever been there?

Last week, I found myself in a lot of pain. Physical pain. The whole right side of my mouth was tweaking on me, big time.

I had a lot to do but it was hard to focus, and I responded to the reality of what was happening by deciding not to struggle.

Instead of fighting the situation and pushing myself to get it all done, I just let go of it.

I surrendered.

I went down to the river deck where I always feel connected.

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My dog, Ollie, came with me and we just hung out. He’s my bud. We smiled at each other now and then and it warmed my heart.

I took my overdue library book with me and zipped through the end of it.

And isn’t it funny that in the pages I covered that day, I discovered a bit more about exactly this, about being one with our issues and our difficulties. (There was a section about physician and healer Leonard Laskow and his book Healing With Love. You can bet I’m going to read that one.)

Connecting with our challenges rather than pushing against them helps us find our wholeness.

It confirmed to me that I was on the right track. As I often say to myself: Embrace it as though you had chosen it. Not always easy but always rewarding.

Not that I needed confirmation, but that wa’s nice, and a fun synchronicity. I know with every cell of my body the importance of being centered. And going with the flow is a big part of that for me.

And this is where I find myself again today.

I’ve been to the dentist and now I’m on pain meds but this has all set me back and I’m still finding it hard to concentrate. I get to go to an endodontist this week. (What a name END-o-dontist. Really? Could a root canal specialist sound any more scary, do ya think?)

I’ve got so much to do. I’m still so far behind, and even more-so now. But seriously. These are my old patterns nagging at me.

I’ve got to stay in my center here.

So maybe I’m behind but it’s more important to me to trust the unfolding; to have a balanced and holistic response to whatever appears in my life. I’m no longer willing to automatically cater to my stressed out ego-self that tries to be in charge all the time.

Some people would push through, I know. I used to be one of them, and still am sometimes when that’s what makes sense.

But now I’m usually inclined to honor what’s happening. To embrace the present moment. Not just as a moment but for what it’s presenting to me. (Hmm, I never noticed: Present-ing.)

And I ask myself: So, how do I dance with this?

I look at the big picture, the whole picture, and then make as conscious a choice as I can about what embracing it means … and what to do next.

In this situation, if I really look at it, it’s a gift. It’s all a gift. It’s a break. And it’s a good reason not to wig out about the things I’ve been wigging out about. (Heck, maybe I even created all of this dental drama so I could have a break. But I digress.)

And so, here I am enjoying writing a post to you that I don’t plan to overwork (for a change). You can take it, right? If it doesn’t flow logically? If it’s not super useful? (Hey, I’m on pain meds, I have an excuse.)

I’m getting to share me, my thoughts, my heart, and a bit more about what I want this blog to be about anyway: The importance and wonder of living from our center.

Because that’s where the magic lives.

And I think that’s a pretty nice thing to embrace, now that I think about it.

How do you dance with situations like this? Do you find value in going with the flow? I know you have something good to share …

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Dec 172010
 

Yesterday I went into town to do a little gift shopping for my son and his family.

It quickly became an experience that was both ordinary and extra-ordinary at the same time.

There’s something I do intentionally sometimes but this time it happened spontaneously. The whole shopping experience became a pure joy for me and I know it was uplifting for the people I interacted with.

Let me explain so you can do it too, if you want.

Little Pockets of Intimacy

It started on its own, right at the beginning when I was walking across the parking lot toward the store. I paused and waited while the security truck drove by. My eyes caught those of the driver and I smiled and nodded. He smiled back and waved. “Hmm, that felt nice”, I noticed as I proceeded into the store, just a little bit lighter on my feet.

Inside, the store was bustling and everyone was going every which way, all very involved in their own little worlds as they efficiently got their shopping done. I have to admit, that’s how I usually shop. Very focused. Oblivious to much of what’s going on around me. (Sound familiar?)

I didn’t consciously intend to do this but at some point I noticed that I was really connecting with every person I had even the slightest interaction with.

And I mean really connecting. I’m usually friendly and often end up in a conversation or two, but this was different.

It involves taking an extra moment — or maybe just a more intentional & present moment — to really see them. As a person.

And the response was remarkable.

Most people did a physical double take. They’re just not expecting it. And then they came back with something “extra”, like “Have a nice day!”, or a big smile, or even something to continue the connection, like talking about the weather or something like that.

There was sweet little old Chester in paints, who philosophized out of the blue about how everyone should live life on their own terms. There was the checkout lady who who got up at the crack of dawn to score a Barbie Dream House for her granddaughter. Or the other one who was eager for snow so her nieces and nephews arriving from Texas could enjoy some winter sports.

But the most noticeable thing in every case is that they all just kind of lit up. They glowed. Their eyes sparkled. They radiated something nice that I could feel from 3 or 4 feet away.

And so did I. I know because I could feel that too, and boy did it feel good!

The Joy of Acknowledging Oneself

What I’m describing is akin to what is known as namasté in the East, and more and more prevalently in the West these days too. It’s a greeting or acknowledgement that means the God or the divine in me honors the God or the divine in you. (Or for those of you who saw Avatar: “I see you”. :-) )

And are we talking about two different Gods?  I think not.

As Michael Brown says in his powerful workbook The Presence Process:

“By setting our intention to appreciate the Inner Presence of another, we simultaneously make a choice to give ourselves an opportunity to look directly into the eyes of God.

We simultaneously give God the opportunity to look back and give us a wink.

We give ourselves an opportunity to remember that we are all connected cells in One body that has One mind, that feels from One heart and that dances from One spirit. “

But whatever the deeper reality, I wanted to share this with you because I highly recommend it. If you do this already, maybe it can serve as a reminder. And if you don’t, it’s very simple.

For example, here’s what you can do at the checkout counter.

1) First take your eyes away from all the things. The credit card machine and the groceries or whatever.

2) For a moment just look into the eyes of the person on the other side of the counter.

Do this with an intention to acknowledge and contact their inner presence.

3) Just smile at them or ask them how they’re doing, or whatever you want. That is, unless whatever happened at step 2 put you immediately at step 4 — not uncommon.

4) And then watch what happens. You will see and feel an obvious response. They suddenly become very present.

5) And notice that you, too, are even more present along with them. And notice how good this feels.

It’s really beautiful.

Food for the Soul

And ultimately, it’s very nourishing. So much so that after a busy day — even after being around the disparate energy of a bunch of people, which we all know has the potential to be draining — you feel uplifted and energized rather than depleted.

And really happy to be alive.

Of course you can do this with anyone at any time. Friends and family included.

Try it out over the holidays and report back. I’d love to hear if you got such a jolt of good juju as I did.

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Dec 102010
 

Do you ever feel like this picture looks? Just a little too “out there”?

Yup, me too.

And I’ll show you a quick way to turn that around.

But first let’s take a look at a primary cause.

(Hint: And it’s not because you have too much to do.)

Who’s Calling the Shots?

In these fascinating days of interconnection, with web surfing, wiki everything, and gadgets galore, rarely a day goes by that we aren’t influenced by other people.

Yet most of our connections have a tiny hidden cost.

Around the holidays especially, with all kinds of parties and family gatherings, there are usually a lot of quiet demands on us. There are tenacious old patterns, unspoken expectations, and assumed obligations, all sneaking a little piece of our attention.

Or maybe like me, you’re learning some new skills and have a lot of “teachers” in your life. We absorb what they tell us like sponges. We watch who does it right and who does it wrong. We listen to what to do and then how to do it better.

Whatever the situation, we’re often so constantly connected that we don’t notice that little pieces of our attention are “out there”, scattered all over the place. And this is true even when the influences are good ones.

Before you know it, the voices of everyone else create a cacophony and added together are much louder than your own. To make matters worse, they don’t all say the same thing, in fact they often say the exact opposite.

They pull you every which way.

If you check in with yourself, you notice you’re scattered, spacey, off balance, and drained. You’re easily distracted. Maybe even little health issues are popping up or you find yourself mindlessly eating all that “bad” stuff. Again.

Aggh!

An Effective Practice

Believe it or not, there’s a quick and easy way to reclaim yourself. It’s something I discovered quite a few years back.

I’ve done this many times and every single time I’m amazed at what a huge difference it makes.

You’ll suddenly be calm and balanced. Collected, centered, and grounded. Best of all you’ll feel congruent and integrated again.

And it’s so simple.

You are going to pull yourself together. Literally.

“This is really America in therapy, people trying to get themselves together and be whole.”
David S. Viscott

A quick study of the words whole, holy, holistic, and health shows that they are all related. No surprise, is it? And holy is “that which must be preserved whole or intact, that cannot be transgressed or violated”.

Sounds pretty good to be whole, doesn’t it?

How to do it

It’s so easy.

1) First of all, decide you want to be all in one place again. Whole. (Speaking of words, did you know “decide” comes from the Latin decidere, to cut off? This is what you are doing when you decide, cutting away from the other options, the distractions.)

Deciding alone is a powerful step.

Do it right now. Can you feel the difference?

2) Next, be aware that all your connections are like tendrils going out from your body and connecting with everyone who’s influencing you.

Take a look at them in your mind’s eye, and who they are connected to. Who is influencing you? Who are the first few people who come to mind? Who are you trying to please? Or learn from? Or who are you trying to influence? Who are you keeping tabs on?

A few will be obvious, and you don’t need to worry about the ones that aren’t.

Spend a minute or so doing this.

3) And finally, just disconnect your tendrils and pull them all back in to yourself.

You can do them one by one, in groups, or all at once — whichever seems most effective for you.

See them all receding back in, so that you are a smooth, egg-shaped energy system.

Then put your focus on you … and take a few moments to notice how soothing and solid that feels.

And you’re done!

Don’t be fooled by how simple and obvious this sounds. It’s really powerful.

When I do this, I immediately feel a shift in my energy. Then for days — and I’m not kidding — I have so much energy I barely know what to do with it all.

I feel clear and uncluttered. I have laser-beam focus without even trying.

You’ll find that you not only feel much better, but you are much more effective at what is important to you. Even when you’ve got lots to do, you’re able to focus calmly on your priorities.

And best of all, you can still work and play with others but your own presence is more concentrated. And your relationships are more healthy again.

If you find the need to do this, I’d love to hear what your results were. Or do it preventively, even better.

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