Jun 292013
 

Awareness + IntuitionOne of the main elements of being conscious is that of awareness. And it’s not any special or tricky kind of awareness. It’s simply awareness.

And here’s the best part: We obviously all have an ability to be aware, at least those of us who are conscious beings (and I assume you consider yourself a part of that group)!

In fact, we cannot help but be aware — of something!

By refining and expanding upon this one simple quality, your consciousness — and intuition, too — will grow exponentially. Yet if it goes unnoticed, you’ll manage, but without the benefit of an integral part of your inborn guidance system.

We can even go so far as to say that operating without a broadened awareness is a handicap that most people are living with.

If you begin to play with being aware, it will become blatantly obvious that there is a lot of information available to you all the time that normally you simply just don’t notice. Or if you notice it, you don’t pay it any mind.

We are often so focused on the task at hand — which usually involves thinking about something rather than participating in the moment — that there is not even a little crack for awareness of anything else to enter.

3 Steps to Expanded Awareness

Here are 3 simple steps you can do immediately that will help you expand your awareness.

1. Intend

Intention goes a long way. This is such a simple and easy action that it’s easy to overlook the power of it. But taking a moment to set an intention can make all the difference.

So, intend to be aware and intend to notice. This will help whatever’s relevant come to your attention even when your attention is on other things.

Hint: It sometimes helps to set your intention to notice something that serves a purpose. So, for example, you might say “I intend to notice anything that might be helpful to me today”, or “I intend to notice something that will delight me today”, etc.

You can repeat this periodically but even once is better than not at all.

2. Notice deliberately

Short practices expand your consciousness and strengthen your intuitive muscles, too.

Take time periodically to:

a. Notice that you are aware, and

b. Notice what you are aware of

This will be interesting in itself, but you’ll also find that you will now be more consciously aware even when you’re not doing this noticing intentionally.

This brings what you are already aware of at a subtle level into the foreground. When we don’t do this, the awareness remains at a subconscious level, where it can do things like make you feel uncomfortable but you don’t know why.

Some of these new awarenesses will be practical observations that you would otherwise miss but which you can now tend to. If your body is cramped, get up and move around or take a good stretch! Thirsty? Get a drink of water! Slightly upset? What’s going on?

3. Remain open to surprises.

The more aware you are, the more you begin to notice things that you’re not expecting at all.

Staying open to surprises will help you not simply see only what you would expect to, but also those new things that your mind would automatically dismiss.

Expect the unexpected! It helps you notice it, which is half the fun.

So these are but a few of the many exercises you can do to increase your awareness.

They’re intended to open some new channels in your habitual modes of experiencing.

You may not get any big a-ha‘s at first, but if you practice them enough, you’ll find your awareness and intuition opening up in exciting, new ways.

Here’s to your expansion!

Patti

What did you intend to notice? Did you? Any surprises? Or what’s YOUR favorite way of expanding your awareness? Do share!

Speaking of intuition …

One of my stories is included in Angela’s post today over at Powered By Intuition.

You can read it here: Intuition: Miraculous Stories of Following Intuition in Everyday Life

May 232013
 

Wow. I have been on quite the writing frenzy lately. You wouldn’t know it from my blog … But you will be able to access all the “good stuff” that I’ve been preparing in just 9 short days.

It was an interesting experience. I had an intense schedule which is unusual for me.

Stress!

Partway in, I was fortunate to notice that I was not approaching my daily tasks with a sense of joy. I mean, I was excited about all I wanted to share but I fell behind almost immediately so there was an overlay of pressure, and because of that, the dreaded “S” word: Stress.

For some reason — I can only call it grace, with a bit of conditioning thrown in — one morning it dawned on me that I didn’t have to do it that way. That there was a much MUCH better way!

It was time to practice what I preach — and ironically, exactly what I was writing about!

A Conscious Approach

And so, I backed off.

I took some time to BE.

And BEing is so powerful! This only took a few minutes and I knew what I had to do, or rather “how” I wanted to do!

Each of us will have our favorite ways of being conscious about what we’re doing (or how we’re doing it), but here are the 3 things that helped me the most.

1. Ritual

This sounds so simple but made a huge difference. I did all my futzing, and when I was ready to sit down and focus for some period of time, I rang my chime. (You could just as easily light a candle, say a prayer, or anything else you feel called to do.)

It signaled that it was time to focus and be purposeful. It was a boundary of sorts, and I honored that.

Just as importantly, it sounds beautiful and I always love to ring it. That alone calls in nothing short of a sacred space that feels wonderful!

As I listened to its vibration fade away, I essentially set my intention to express what it was that wanted to be expressed through me.

2. Touch In

So what was it exactly, that wanted to be expressed through me?

I touched in with my essence and explored that question.

I always got an answer. Note that this is very different than thinking about it or figuring it out. It’s not a (predominantly) mental process.

There were often several options and they always felt good.

3. Play

This one was important!

And again, ironically, you almost have to let go of “importance” in order to play!

By this I mean a “lightspirited” approach. Allowing the energy to flow, and at the same time letting go of a need for any particular results.

When I had two (or more) ideas for the same concept, I would choose the one that felt the most fun.

This is not frivolous. To the contrary, we’re paying attention to the “voice” of the light and the life within us, indicating our best path. It will be the most rewarding and the most effective.

Pretty soon, I was in a rhythm, and an enjoyable rhythm at that.

It wasn’t long before I was not only caught up, but even ahead of schedule. I ended up submitting my 30 articles a day ahead of time, and in a relaxed, easy frame of mind. Yay!

Here’s to living consciously – the only way to be!

Patti

So, how do you turn it around? From stress, to joy? I’d love to hear!


And that project I was working on? It’s the OM Times 30 Day Conscious Living Challenge in which I’m delighted and *honored* to be one of the experts!

The challenge I’m hosting is The ABC’s of Actively Being Conscious. We have fun going through the alphabet, each day learning one more conscious living skill.

A very cool thing about this — besides that it’s FREE – is that it’s all interactive! I’ll be on hand to answer any questions and/or work with you on an individual basis as you proceed through the challenge. You can also interact with others doing the challenge as well as other Experts and people doing their challenges. (In fact, you can do as many challenges as you have time and energy for!)

Click on the image for more information and to sign up to be notified when all the goodies are accessible.

Thank you, and I hope to see you there! (Starts Saturday, June 1!)

OM Times 30 Day Conscious Living Challenge - Spiritual Expert Patti Foy

And There’s More!

In case you didn’t know about it, the Hay House World Summit is almost upon us as well – another fantastic online offering.

It’s free, but you’re also able to purchase the audios/videos to have forever!

Click on the image below for more information. (It’s my affiliate link and I’d be ever so grateful if you use it in the event you decide to purchase. Thank you!)

Hay House World Summit

Jan 222013
 

Group ActivationJoin us this Friday for a

FREE
group
Holographic Emergence
session

(or “Activation”).

During an Activation, I use my Holographic Emergence™ abilities to activate a particular energy as pre-determined for each Activation.

Within that area, you bring your own individual intention and we activate that as well.

This time, though, we’re going to do it a bit differently. (In fact, it’s not technically an “Activation” since I’m not choosing a particular energy to activate.)

This Month’s Focus

This time, you will bring your own intention, in any area, and and we’ll activate that together!

That means I’ll access a quantum state (the field of magic and miracles) to facilitate a positive shift related to your intention.

On top of that, I’m going to walk you through a simple version of my process as we go, so that afterward you can practice it on your own with any number of intentions.

So not only do you get a Holographic Emergence™ session, you get a mini-class as well!

How the Activation Will Unfold

As with all the previous Activations, I’ll begin with a short introduction. This time we’ll cover the importance of opening your mind to the possibilities – especially important since you’re going to be activating your intention along with me.

As we do your session, you’ll also learn how to:

1. Offer your intention

I’ll elaborate on this during the introduction.

2. Calibrate (when possible)

I’ll also cover this during the introduction.

3. Get into the state

We’ll do this together as part of the activation.

You’ll come away with 2 easy yet powerful ways to enter the state.

4. Make a simple observation/measurement

We’ll be doing a very simple focusing activity that is somewhat a cross between the Matrix Energetics “Two-Point” and Dr. Frank Kinslow’s “Quantum Entrainment Triangulation” technique.

5. Notice what changed

This is an important part of the process and is where you may also see immediate results (depending on your intention).

And that’s it! (As if that’s not enough!)

In Addition …

• It’s Free!

There’s no charge for this, but note that this is the last free Activation.

I’ve enjoyed doing these with you but participants have been encouraging me to charge for these. (I know, right?! :-) )

In a few months I’ll be offering them regularly for a small fee.

• Time for Q & A

The Activation will take approximately 1 hour which includes time afterward for reports and questions.

• Includes a Free Download

Afterward, registrants will get a link to download the session which can be used as a booster session as well as for review and practice.

Ready to join us? Please do!

And share this post with your friends, too. The more the merrier. (Buttons below, or forward if you’re reading this in email.)

There are only a few days left so act now.

It’s taking place this Friday at 10:30a MST. (It’s a teleconference so everyone can attend, no matter where in the world you are!)

Want more info about what a Holographic Emergence session is, and what you can expect? Read about my Holographic Emergence™ services, or check out my “new service” announcement post with even more introductory info.


This free Activation is for newsletter subscribers only.

If you’re already a subscriber, you’ll find the registration link in the latest newsletter (from last Friday — check your inbox).

If you’re not yet a subscriber, you can subscribe here (it’s free), and you’ll be emailed a link to the newsletter that has the registration button. [You'll also get a new subscriber thank-you gift: Emergence Primer + Tune-Up Session!]


Thanks for reading, and I hope to “see” you on Friday!

Patti

If you have any questions or comments, please leave them in the comment box and I’ll be sure to respond.

Nov 302012
 

Eufeeling!Dr. Frank J. Kinslow has written a magnificent book called Eufeeling! The Art of Creating Inner Peace and Outer Prosperity. It’s about how you can use what he calls “Eufeeling” to enhance your life and your experience of life, no matter what your life situation.

As the subtitle states, it’s a way to create both inner peace and outer prosperity.

What You’ll Learn

The process hinges around being able to experience Eufeeling, a calm state of presence, and much of the focus is on teaching you how to do that. It’s a simple process, explained very well, and all you need to do is try it out and — most likely — to practice it.

If you will commit to practicing Eufeeling in your daily life, then this, in itself, will help you love your life, no matter what that consists of.

Life is not about trying to see things in a positive light. Life is the positive light.

~ Eufeeling!

But you also learn how to apply Eufeeling to particular applications or intentions. There’s a lot of excellent instruction about intention and what that means in this context. If you already practice some form of intention work, you may be surprised at Dr. Kinslow’s suggestions. Exactly how you place intention is an important aspect of the process and this was one of my favorite sections.

… We tenderly open our awareness to our [intention] and then watch as it gently kisses the surface of Pure Eufeeling. This is the magical moment, the flawless conception, when all of creation awakens to your desire.

~ Eufeeling!

Is that a breath-takingly beautiful quote, or what?!

The book then goes on to show you how to use it for specific applications, and not only for yourself, but for others. In particular, it covers emotional states, chronic illness, material wealth, and general problem solving.

He closes by beautifully elaborating on how and why our practicing such an art helps humanity in general. I agree with him that it’s important, meaningful work and also that time is of the essence.

Enjoyable and Rewarding

I was happy to see that this book is very well written. As a former engineer (software), I very much appreciate this type of top-down approach, first giving us context, and then getting into detail.

The book is also well-ordered, starting with the basic concepts (which he makes it a point to clearly define — very helpful), methodically building on them, and culminating with how to apply all that you’ve learned. There are exercises throughout so you are adept at each foundational step before you move on to applications that rely on them.

Dr. Kinslow is a master of analogy and metaphor. He has an impressive ability to make esoteric concepts easily accessible. I also appreciated his down-to-earth sense of humor that ran through the text like a luminous thread.

All-in-all, his engaging style makes for enjoyable and satisfying reading.

Yes, It Works!

As to the usefulness of what he teaches here: My experience is that it works!

I see this as a form of “consciousness technology” with similarities to Matrix Energetics as well as my own adapted process called Holographic Emergence™. The “philosophy” (i.e. understanding, art, and science) behind it is very similar to what I’ve been doing since 2007, so of course I personally took to it like a duck to water.

Also included, in an appendix, is concise instruction on using his “Quantum Entrainment Triangulation Technique”, the essence of one of his other books (so a great bonus). It’s quick and easy and very similar to the Two-Point as taught in Matrix Energetics, and I’ve especially been enjoying playing with this.

For someone already familiar with consciousness technologies, it will expand and enhance your practice. At the same time, he explains it all so beautifully that even a novice could pick it up immediately and see some remarkable results.

I did a lot of his exercises, applying them to real issues in my life, and I did see results. I’m still experimenting with it for all kinds of things, and it’s more than satisfying … it’s fun!

Eufeeling! is Highly Recommended

I loved this book, and I highly recommend it. I honestly think everyone in the world could benefit from it and should read and practice it now! ;-)

If you play with these ideas and exercises like he suggests, I know you’ll be amazed. (And if you do, I’d love for you to leave a comment and let me know how it was for you!)

Stay Tuned for More

Unfortunately, I can’t say as much as I’d like in one short review. Stay tuned for more posts about this process with a lot more detail, beginning with how it compares with my process of Holographic Emergence™ (and perhaps with Matrix Energetics).

I’ll also share more about my experience with it, including how I applied it and what results I noticed.

Disclaimer: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for review purposes, and true to form, they encourage complete honesty in our reviews. But rest assured that no matter what, any reviews on this site reflect my honest evaluation.

Until next time, thanks for reading!

Patti

Have you read “Eufeeling!” or tried any of Dr. Kinslow’s techniques? Do you have any questions about the book? Either way, I’d love to hear! Please leave your comment below.


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Jan 162012
 

Today I did a free session for one the the winners of the Solstice drawing I held at the end of December.

She had her choice of a Channeling, a Holographic Emergence Session, or a Jyotish Prasna reading.

She chose a non-interactive channeling. That’s where she sends her questions to me, I record the session of me connecting with her guide(s) to ask the questions and channel the answers, and then I email her the audio.

Always before doing a session with or for a client, I take a few minutes to prepare.

Sometimes I go through a more elaborate ritual of sorts, but today was just whatever came up in the moment.

During the process I got the idea to share today’s few-minute preparation with you … So here it is.

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A few things you’ll hear in this 4-minute audio are:
- Turning on my intuitive “radio”
- Confirmation that things were shifting
- Doing Matrix Energetics, specifically a 2-point
- Setting my intention for the session
- Receiving guidance about an additional intention for this session
- Confirmation that I was ready to go

I also prepare the environment and do an invocation but that’s done in the beginning of the actual channeling session. This is just an example of a pre-session preparation of myself to line up my energy system for the process.

Enjoy.

And of course, as always, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

P.S. If you missed the drawing, why don’t you sign up for my newsletter, get my posts in your feed reader, follow me on twitter, or like LsB on facebook? That way, you’ll always know about my specials and periodic giveaways.

Dec 062011
 

I used to have an ambivalent relationship with holidays.

I loved them because I got to be away from work, do some special activities, and see friends or family that I didn’t get to see regularly.

At the same time, I dreaded holidays because they always got stressful. Even when I made reasonable plans, my commitments inevitably multiplied like bunnies and before I knew it, I was frazzled and distracted, doing things I’d rather not, and all with an obligatory smile plastered on my face.

But all that changed soon after I met my husband. He had begun a practice of going to Yosemite for Christmas.

When I first considered going, I knew immediately it wouldn’t work. I mean, what about all my holiday “stuff”?

Getting together with family on Christmas eve?

Christmas dinner and all it involves?

What about all the presents I had to buy? And wrap? And pack? And send? And give in person?

The cards I had to write and mail?

The tree to buy and decorate?

All the boxes of Christmas decorations to unpack and put out, and then pack away again.

All the cookies I had to bake?

All the Christmas parties to flit around to?

What about donations to the needy, the service work to do?

On and on. And on and on. Aggh!

But alas … Christmas in Yosemite sure did sound heavenly!

So I began thinking about how to do most of my other stuff ahead of time. Yes! I could do it before and while preparing for the 5 day trip to Yosemite! But the thought of that just freaked me out.

And then it hit me.

I had been moving through all my holiday activities like an automaton. Sure, I enjoyed some of them, and some of them touched my heart.

But most of them were not enjoyable or meaningful at all, or they added so much stress and took so much time or money that they were just not worth it to me.

A New and Improved Way to Do Holidays

And for the first time, I began to make conscious choices about how I wanted to spend the holidays.

I let all the had-to’s and shoulds just fall away in favor of the want-to’s.

We went to Yosemite at Christmas for a number of years and it was *magical*. We used the heater in our little cabin as our imaginary fireplace and opened our few little gifts to each other. We went to the fancy Bracebridge dinner at the Ahwahnee, a lavish affair with an 8-course meal. We ate bad food in the brightly lit and nearly empty cafeteria and had lovely exchanges with the cafeteria workers, and oddly, that remains one of our happiest memories. And I’ll never forget being in the tiny chapel there with snow falling gently outside, while 2 young kids in front of us fought loudly over the candles for the candle-light service. My heart soared and I laughed and cried at the same time.

Those experiences enriched my life and made me a better person.

This was the point of Christmas.

Connect with the Holiday Spirit

You, too, can trade in your stressful pile of obligations for free time (*gasp*) where you can connect with the special meaning that each holiday embodies by nurturing its lovely spirit and bringing it to life.

You can make the holiday spirit a significant part of your experience instead of something fleeting you try to grasp or catch a quick glimpse of in-between commitments that have gotten out of control.

Examine Your Assumptions

Examine each thing you do and every person you connect with and ask yourself why you do it.

Did you merely “inherit” it and now just do it without choosing to do it? Without realizing you don’t have to?

Are you allowing others’ expectations to overly influence you?

Do you enjoy doing these things?

Do you enjoy being with these people? (Yes, ask this about family. Maybe especially about family.)

Can you afford it easily or does it add undue stress?

What are the results? Are they worth the investment of time and money?

Maybe you’ll find that some of these things really are where you want to put your energy. Good! Now you know. And the rest you can consider letting go of.

What Makes Your Heart Sing?

There are always trade-offs. So it helps to consider if there are things you might like to do instead.

Maybe you want to leave the newly freed-up time alone. Allow it to just be there and spontaneously enjoy it when it comes around … or not.

Or use your creative spirit to brainstorm some fresh, new ideas that have some life to them.

What does this holiday mean to you? How can you express that?

Who do you love? What do you care about? Do you want to make a connection or contribution?

What do you enjoy? What makes your heart sing? Don’t you deserve to commune with the spirit of the holiday for your benefit as well as for others’?

With just a little deliberate forethought, and feeling into your own heart, you can make the holidays a time to go deep instead of wasting them on meaningless, superficial activities.

Unless you like superficial! It does have its place. The point is to make conscious choices.

Give Yourself Permission

You’re a grown-up now, and no-one is the boss of you.

You don’t need to follow in the old traditions automatically. Of course, if you love them, then yes, indeed!

But spare yourself being an automaton for as long as I was. You can break free now.

Watch What Happens

If you’re like me, you’ll be surprised to find that the things you cut out are not missed. And if they are, well, you can do them next year. You can even do them just because. If they have value, do they need a holiday to go with? Maybe not.

As to the people you usually spend holidays with, perhaps they need to adjust to your new way, but they’ll come around before you know it. You’ll likely find that it’s not nearly so traumatic on them as you imagine.

And the time you do decide to spend with people is much more meaningful when you do it because you genuinely want to be with them.

Nowadays, my list is pared waaaay down. This year, we’re having a low-key holiday. We may or may not decorate, we’ll have a delicious meal that is simple to prepare, and I’ll give a few heartfelt gifts to my son and his family. (They may do a road-trip and arrive on our doorstep. If they do, I’ve got plenty of extra time to spend with them.) Lots of children — too many — in our area need hats and gloves (can you imagine?), and that’s my service/donation priority this season.

And that’s plenty.

It leaves me space to touch in regularly with the spirit of this beautiful season, and see where it takes me in the moment.

I wish you many spirited moments of your own this holiday season.

Thanks for reading!

How do you spend your holidays? Are they spirited? Would love to hear!


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Do you want a free reading? I’m giving away two — winner’s choice of 3 types!

You can choose a:

All I ask is that you:

1) “Like” Lightspirited Being on facebook (button to the right if you’re reading this from the blog) AND

2) Write on Lightspirited Being’s facebook wall that you want to be in the “Solstice Drawing”

That’s it!

I’ll draw 2 qualifying recipients on the Solstice (Dec. 21 here in NM). Please feel free to spread the word until then.

Thanks so much — and good luck!


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Jul 222011
 

I was listening to a business coach do a sample session this morning, and it was fascinating.

He was so good at helping people get past their blocks, and what he was doing seemed a lot like intuitive coaching to me (or how I would imagine good intuitive coaching).

I checked his website to see if he presents himself as an intuitive coach. Nope. Not a word about that.

But boy, did this guy listen.

He listened to what people said, and maybe more importantly, he listened to what they didn’t say. He read between the lines. He heard the thoughts and felt the feelings behind their words.

He then used his perceptions to help reveal, clarify, and organize. He worked with the callers to zero right in on areas where new awareness, decisions, and action can make the biggest difference. It was amazing.

And I got thinking…

Deep listening and intuition have a lot in common.

Do You Listen?

How well do you listen? If you’re like most of us, not very well. I often notice that very few people really listen anymore, and I’m just as guilty as the next person.

I think this happens because we’re usually on a mission of our own. We’re in active, output mode.

And then when we are in input mode, we’re often in a super-mental space (e.g. surfing the internet) or a zoned-out space (e.g. watching T.V.).

Or when we’re straddling the two modes, like when we’re in a conversation, we have our own thoughts going full-throttle in our head. “Ya, that’s right…” or “Well, that’s not exactly true…” or “When will he stop yapping so I can tell him about my much more interesting experience/thoughts/whatever…” Right?

And in groups, too often the person running a meeting has their own agenda and just does not give others their due.

Of course it’s not always this extreme, but I think most of us could listen much better than we do.

The Value of Listening

But oh, there are so many great reasons to listen. Here are just a few.

For the Other Person

Sometimes someone will want your counsel or advice. If you can really tune-in to what they’re saying instead of listening mostly to the commentary in your head, you’ll be much more helpful.

And when you’re really tuned in, you sometimes notice that what they’re saying might even contradict what you’re hearing at a deeper level. Their head is saying one thing through their mouths, but their heart is saying something entirely different.

Sometimes people just need to talk, and they don’t need or even want your advice. In these cases it’s powerful if you can simply be present for them. If you’re truly present, you’ll also be listening. The presence in and of itself is healing at many levels.

For Both (or All) of You

True listening can bring you closer. It’s intimate. It feels good.

Today when my husband and I walked to the mailbox, he talked about something that was bothering him. Mostly I listened. I responded with a few simple thoughts, and later he thanked me for listening and talking with him. I didn’t even say anything of significance. But he said he was feeling a lot better. And so was I.

If you’re open and prepared to really listen in the first place, it’s more likely that someone will open up to you. They know that judgement and unsolicited advice will not be thrust upon them. This is especially true of our kids, even our grown ones.

In groups it’s just as important. Instead of having an agenda or an out of control ego, it’s so much more productive and satisfying to open to all the ideas and really find the best way forward for all involved.

Listening can go a long way toward strengthening relationships.

For You

Of course, when you listen and as a result add positively to someone’s life — even in a small way — it feels good. So there’s that.

You also stand to gain not only new information but new or deeper insights and understandings. And not only about whomever you’re listening to, but about yourself as well. This is always good.

And if, like me, you enjoy exercising your intuitive muscles, then all the more reason to do this.

In fact, I’d say being intuitive is almost impossible without knowing how to listen.

The Lost Art of Listening

So if we make a decision to listen — and I mean really listen — how do we do that? What does that mean?

Well, first off, I’m sure you know. You just may not have thought about it or make it a point to do it.

Here are a few things that can point the way to good listening.

1. Remind yourself to listen.

Deciding to do this and then following through is the biggest step of all. In other words: Ya gotta wanna.

2. Make it a point to not interrupt.

You may be good at this already, but I know I have to work on this one all the time. Especially when I’m excited about the topic.

3. Leave space. Take a breath.

I’m getting better at this but I used to pack my jyotish readings so full of information there was very little room for discussion. But I’ve found that the more interactive they are and the more I can be there in the moment with them, the better. So now I try to leave a lot more space.

Discussions — and especially those that are even remotely related to counseling — are not just about information. The more you can tune-in and respond in the moment, the more useful it is.

Things come up you could never anticipate, and they are exactly what’s needed at the time.

4. Open your heart.

Did you know your heart is one of your best organs for listening? Maybe even better than your ears.

Consciously make a decision to listen with your heart. You’ll discover what that means as you do it and it will make all the difference. This is true especially when you’re talking with someone about a disagreement or working through something similar.

Note: One of my regular commenters came up with his own really good #4, which so happens to do away with a need for #6. (Thank-you, Irving!) I like it so much I’m putting it here for you.

4. Open your heart

Open your heart. Really feel concern for the person you are listening to. Try to see where they are coming from and place yourself in their shoes. When you do so, you will really listen and understand what they are trying to share. And as a result, they will feel better also.

If you do this well, you suspend judgment naturally. After all, if you see the big picture and understand the reasons behind it, how can you judge?

5. Stay focused.

Have you ever talked with someone who’s looking around, or otherwise distracted? Someone who’s trying to multi-task and not being attentive? Not real pleasant. Don’t be that person.

6. Suspend judgement.

It has no place here. Let it take a hike.

7. Stay humble.

You don’t have to have any answers or words of wisdom. Accept that you don’t know, or that you don’t have to know. Stay open inside too, and you may be surprised at how much insight or understanding just appears out of nowhere.

Listening can be such an enriching experience for everyone involved, and I’m going to give listening — really listening — a more concerted effort for awhile. Care to join me?

Do you have other pointers for listening deeply, or thoughts about why it’s so valuable? Want to share them? I’m listening…

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Dec 172010
 

Yesterday I went into town to do a little gift shopping for my son and his family.

It quickly became an experience that was both ordinary and extra-ordinary at the same time.

There’s something I do intentionally sometimes but this time it happened spontaneously. The whole shopping experience became a pure joy for me and I know it was uplifting for the people I interacted with.

Let me explain so you can do it too, if you want.

Little Pockets of Intimacy

It started on its own, right at the beginning when I was walking across the parking lot toward the store. I paused and waited while the security truck drove by. My eyes caught those of the driver and I smiled and nodded. He smiled back and waved. “Hmm, that felt nice”, I noticed as I proceeded into the store, just a little bit lighter on my feet.

Inside, the store was bustling and everyone was going every which way, all very involved in their own little worlds as they efficiently got their shopping done. I have to admit, that’s how I usually shop. Very focused. Oblivious to much of what’s going on around me. (Sound familiar?)

I didn’t consciously intend to do this but at some point I noticed that I was really connecting with every person I had even the slightest interaction with.

And I mean really connecting. I’m usually friendly and often end up in a conversation or two, but this was different.

It involves taking an extra moment — or maybe just a more intentional & present moment — to really see them. As a person.

And the response was remarkable.

Most people did a physical double take. They’re just not expecting it. And then they came back with something “extra”, like “Have a nice day!”, or a big smile, or even something to continue the connection, like talking about the weather or something like that.

There was sweet little old Chester in paints, who philosophized out of the blue about how everyone should live life on their own terms. There was the checkout lady who who got up at the crack of dawn to score a Barbie Dream House for her granddaughter. Or the other one who was eager for snow so her nieces and nephews arriving from Texas could enjoy some winter sports.

But the most noticeable thing in every case is that they all just kind of lit up. They glowed. Their eyes sparkled. They radiated something nice that I could feel from 3 or 4 feet away.

And so did I. I know because I could feel that too, and boy did it feel good!

The Joy of Acknowledging Oneself

What I’m describing is akin to what is known as namasté in the East, and more and more prevalently in the West these days too. It’s a greeting or acknowledgement that means the God or the divine in me honors the God or the divine in you. (Or for those of you who saw Avatar: “I see you”. :-) )

And are we talking about two different Gods?  I think not.

As Michael Brown says in his powerful workbook The Presence Process:

“By setting our intention to appreciate the Inner Presence of another, we simultaneously make a choice to give ourselves an opportunity to look directly into the eyes of God.

We simultaneously give God the opportunity to look back and give us a wink.

We give ourselves an opportunity to remember that we are all connected cells in One body that has One mind, that feels from One heart and that dances from One spirit. “

But whatever the deeper reality, I wanted to share this with you because I highly recommend it. If you do this already, maybe it can serve as a reminder. And if you don’t, it’s very simple.

For example, here’s what you can do at the checkout counter.

1) First take your eyes away from all the things. The credit card machine and the groceries or whatever.

2) For a moment just look into the eyes of the person on the other side of the counter.

Do this with an intention to acknowledge and contact their inner presence.

3) Just smile at them or ask them how they’re doing, or whatever you want. That is, unless whatever happened at step 2 put you immediately at step 4 — not uncommon.

4) And then watch what happens. You will see and feel an obvious response. They suddenly become very present.

5) And notice that you, too, are even more present along with them. And notice how good this feels.

It’s really beautiful.

Food for the Soul

And ultimately, it’s very nourishing. So much so that after a busy day — even after being around the disparate energy of a bunch of people, which we all know has the potential to be draining — you feel uplifted and energized rather than depleted.

And really happy to be alive.

Of course you can do this with anyone at any time. Friends and family included.

Try it out over the holidays and report back. I’d love to hear if you got such a jolt of good juju as I did.

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Oct 082010
 

For the first time ever, I’d like to share this gentle yet effective 2-minute practice I’ve developed. You can use it whenever you’d like (I recommend first thing in the morning).

It will open you to inspiration in all its forms that you might better express what you alone are uniquely qualified to bring into the world.

It will also connect your body and conscious awareness to the more expanded self that you are, and all that that implies. (I used to say “I open [whatever] to receive [whatever]…”, but that insinuates it’s not already a part of me, which it is!) In practical terms, this means that it puts you more in tune with your intuition or your own inner guidance, and helps you notice things that you might not otherwise but that can be helpful — sometimes powerfully so — to you in your day to day life.

As I have, it’s gone through a lot of changes over the years and I’m sure we will go through many more. If you decide to try it out, do see how it resonates with you and do tweak it to fit you.

I suppose you could say it’s a prayer, but I experience it more as a full-body declaration, bordering on celebration! It can be quite enlivening if you really let yourself feel it, which I highly recommend you do.

Like me, you will probably find that as you open to all the various gifts, you can’t help but be aware of and appreciate them immediately. This alone is uplifting nevermind all the other good stuff!

It’s an exquisite way to begin any day.

Enjoy!

I Open

I open myself to the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my crown to receive
Divine Light and High Guidance.

I open my mind to be attentive and to notice
the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my eyes to see the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my ears to hear the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my nose to smell the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my mouth to taste the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my throat to speak the messages of my soul,
the messages of my guides,
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my heart to feel the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my solar plexus and the rest of my body
to sense the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

I open my pelvic bowl to empower
the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe

I open my arms to accept and embrace
the messages of my soul
and the gifts of the universe.

And I open my hands to give back to the world
using the gifts I am so graciously given.

And so it is. Thank you. Amen.

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Sep 292010
 

Do you want to have more access to your own inner guidance, your intuition, but have trouble finding the time? Well, I have good news: There IS no need to dedicate a chunk of your precious time!

I’m going to tell you about  a really handy tool for helping you do this today. Right now, in fact. It can make your intuitive voice a constant companion. It enables you to practice your intuitive awareness while you’re doing other things and the resulting clarity and guidance will help you do those other things even better!

And it couldn’t be more accessible. It’s a simple timer!

Now, I know this may sound a little nerdy, but I have benefited so much from using a timer that I don’t care! I use this tool often. It’s great for reminding me to check in with my intuition. (It’s also excellent for any kind of mindfulness practice.  And if you are wanting to be more intuitive, I highly recommend a mindfulness practice of some kind. They go hand-in-hand and make a beautiful couple!)

I use a regular kitchen timer attached to my waistband, or if I’m at my computer I use a digital timer that runs in the background. Use whatever kind of timer is most convenient for you.

Depending on what intuitive skill I am practicing, or what activities I’m involved in that day, I will set it to go off anywhere from every 10 min. to every hour. Use your own judgement.

Okay okay, you say, so what do I do with it already?

Well, the main thing is you use it to remind you to pause, just for a few minutes, and check in with what you might be sensing in the moment. You can make this as simple or complex as you want. But essentially:

1. When I decide on an interval and set my timer for the day, I also set an intention with an affirmation. For example,

When this goes off today, it will gently remind me that I am intuitive and constantly receiving impressions. I will easily slip into a space where those impressions and what they mean are all very apparent. My intuitive muscles are getting more awesome by the minute!

If there is something in particular that you are wanting to receive answers about, go ahead and make that a part of your intention. Often intuition works more easily when it has a compelling purpose.

2. So then, when the timer goes off, step out of what you are doing if possible. (I suggest that in the beginning you don’t do this while doing things that require undivided attention, such as driving, etc. Eventually, you will find that doing this actually helps you be more attentive, but for now, let’s just play it safe.) It might help to close your eyes.

3. Be aware of that stillness and that space that is always present sort of encompassing everything. Some people experience this as their heart space.

4. Move out of your thinking mind as much as you can. (And if you have a few extra minutes, you can use these remarkable tools to make sure you’re in an open intuitive space.)

5. Next, just open to anything at all that might be trying to get your attention. Ask if there is anything that it would be helpful for you to be aware of, then see if anything comes to you. It could be in the form of a thought, a physical sensation, a knowing, an inspired idea related to what you were doing or what you asked about in the beginning of the day.

If nothing comes, that’s okay! If something comes that you don’t know what to do with, that’s okay too! You’re exercising; it’s progress whether it looks like it or not.

6. The rest of the exercise is free-form. Here are some ideas; do all or some or none!

You can ask yourself any or all of the following questions, or make up your own either beforehand or in the moment. Note you are not asking your thinking/rational mind. Remember, you’re in your heart, so ask your heart:

• What thoughts or impressions have I had (or am I having) that might be intuitions?

• What is trying to happen (I love this question. Really useful!)

• What do I need to be aware of that I now have no awareness of?

• What new concept can I become aware of today that will help: enlighten? heal? [whatever]?

• How is [so-and-so] doing right now? (Useful if someone close to you is of concern, OR if you are just playing and can confirm later on.)

Glance over my post on awareness for more ways to exercise your intuition, and insert any of those practices here.

Check in with your various bodies: physical, emotional (and see if it’s coming from you or someone else), mental (even though you are not “IN” your head, you can still see it from where you are!) and spiritual. Just see what’s up and if it’s helpful at all. (I’ll do this right now as an example; here are my notes):

Physical: A need for a big sigh, indicating I’m not relaxed. Tense. Take a moment to shift around and roll my shoulders. That’s better.

Emotional: Not. Involved in mental activity. (That’s okay, makes sense!)

Mental: A little jumbled. Preceding part of this post is only outlined (at best!), still gathering and organizing thoughts.

Spiritual: Not sure what I even mean by this in this context, but it seems important to check in anyway. I notice that the question that pops into my mind is: What frequency am I operating on? Answer: A little heavy. Something tells me I would do well to take a moment and lift myself; that way this post will come from a more inspired (spirited) place. There are lots of ways to do this, and I’ll cover them in another post. For now, I will simply remind myself how lucky I am to be getting to write. And about this. I enjoy it, and remember that this is fun and I’ve chosen it. There, much lighter already!

7. And finally, play with this! See what YOU can come up with. Improvise however you want. Keep it fun and it will be surprisingly rewarding. You will very likely come away with some useful insights or guidance that would otherwise have escaped you.

Don’t worry if you don’t get a lot of impressions in the beginning, or if you aren’t able to connect them with anything meaningful. Maybe there’s nothing at all that seems significant right away but this exercise will invariably get the juices flowing. Frequent checking in is an important step toward it being second nature, or even first! ;-)

Eventually, you will find that the timer works like training wheels, or even brakes if that’s what’s called for. Pausing to “check in” becomes automatic, and even without the timer you will go for quite awhile as if you were using it when you don’t even need to. And if you’re like me, you might find you’re getting wobbly again after awhile, or racing headlong down the hill, and you want to use the training wheels (or brakes) again for a little while.

Ding! Ding! Ding! Now is the time to use your intuition! Go!

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Aug 302010
 

Here is a simple practice that is really powerful and motivating. You are doing something you would be doing anyway, but you’re doing it with an expanded vision that gives far-reaching results. And a surprising bonus is: it actually makes cleaning house fun!

We can all probably agree that our environment feels better when it is decluttered, clean, and organized. Let’s start with the given that this makes sense physically and psychologically, and then take it a step further.

If we approach these clearing activities metaphorically or symbolically, we can benefit even more.

The idea here is that as we declutter, clean, and organize any area of our home (or property, vehicle, office, etc.) we are improving an area of our lives on an even bigger scale than just that physical area of our environment.

What’s in a Dust Bunny?

Everything we are around on a regular basis has energy ties and some type of connection to us, whether we are conscious of it or not. We can envision this as thin threads going from us to everything we own (and some things have big fat ropes!)

As we clean, clear, move, or give any attention at all to these things, the changes reverberate into the larger pattern of our lives that these things are tied to. We can see a correspondence between our life and the location, the article, and/or the activity. In other words, as we clear things, we not only clear that area of our home directly but ALSO an area of our life that’s represented symbolically by that physical area, its contents, or the action we are taking. I would say that this is always true, but especially so if we do it with conscious intent.

Can you see the ramifications of this? How powerful and far reaching this can be in helping us make improvements in all areas of our lives?

And even when things are simply neglected or left to gather dust, never being used or appreciated, those areas of our lives that they relate to are often deteriorating as well. The dust itself is like old, leftover consciousness that begins to smother their vitality. (I am reminded of Dr. Masaru Emoto’s brilliant work with the water crystals, where he showed that plants receiving negative energy fared even better than those that were totally ignored–except for being kept alive, that is. Amazing!)

Next time you clean or declutter, pay attention for the next hours, days, or week and see if you can notice any side-effects in the area of your life that that area might represent.

You Can Decide What You Want to Change

Conversely, if you want to make some changes in a particular area of your life, consider what area of your home or what type of belongings can or do represent that, and then go about cleaning up that physical area. You can consider it intellectually and see if you can get a felt-sense of it too.

Besides resulting in significant and sometimes surprising improvements in that life area, a great side effect of this way of going about clutter-clearing is that it can be a great motivation to clear/clean and even make it more interesting and enjoyable.

You can use your own ideas about how a physical area of your home or a certain activity might tie to an area of your life (get creative, it’s all valid; get intuitive, even better) and/or you can use established systems such as Feng Shui, Vastu, etc. to establish the correlations.

Charge It With Intention

It can be even more powerful to think or even say out loud as you are clearing what it is that you are intending, e.g.

As I mop these dust-bunnies out from under my bed, I am gently removing:
a) the unnoticed debris left from past relationships, or
b) my random worries that have been keeping me awake at night, or
c) the “dust” that indicates my lack of action in reaching out to my husband/wife, or
d) the scary monsters that I now have the courage to see in the light of day

You get the idea. This sounds like a silly example (and maybe it is) but declaring your intentions really does add oompf. Try it out!

Better yet, play with it! Go ahead – let those dust bunnies fly! Turn your feather-duster into a magic wand!

Just be warned: you can’t always predict what new adventure may open up to you as a result! My best personal story is of cleaning out the stuffed full closet in my office and coming away with tons of released energy, a newly redecorated room, and a revived career.

Some Ways You Can Start Today

The connections are endless, and many (or even most) are specific to us as individuals. But here are a few that most of us have in common where you can make a start right away.

  • General decluttering, cleaning, and organizing seems to remove the cobwebs from your energy systems in general, making you much more clear and decisive. It also has the added benefit of making you more alert and intuitive.
  • Do you have lots of old financial files that will never again be of any use? Papers or statements you’re afraid to look at? Give them a spring cleaning and notice how your finances are revived and positively activated.
  • Book shelves are like magic. No sooner do I give away books that I have outgrown, then I am introduced to new areas of fascination and some of the empty spaces begin to come alive with new materials.
  • Sorting through old photos is a powerful way to revive or let go of relationships, including relationships with a “you” of the past. This is often quite therapeutic and can be very healing, even when you didn’t know healing was called for. (And be prepared to possibly hear from some of these people out of the blue.)
  • Thinning out or organizing things that represent mental activities (reading, tracking, planning, figuring) can go a long way to actually help clear your mental clutter such as worrying, judging, criticizing, and over-thinking.
  • Clearing communications areas (such as email or that little address book with phone numbers from two decades ago) can help free up your energy for those relationships that do matter.  Organizing the new or decluttered space can help you be more clear when listening and speaking.
  • Clean and decorate the “helpful people” area of your Feng Shui bagua (a complex topic but the  short form is the south-east direction of a space) to keep that energy moving.
  • Attend to areas that hold vitamins, herbs, medicines, health and personal products and watch your physical health improve.
  • “Thinning out” in general can help you let go of a craving for excess food and you will likewise thin down.
  • Cleaning basements can go to the foundations of who we are and what we stand for, including our subconscious patterns. It can take a brave soul to dive into the “dungeons” but the results can be amazing.
  • Cleaning up that pet cupboard, tossing or giving away those things they’ve outgrown or that are old and worn will revive your relationship with them and improve your pets’ well-being as well.
  • Spiff up the outside of your home or your outdoors areas (or even your car) as representative of how you show yourself to and connect with the world at large. You just may find yourself wanting to have a party!

I first heard of this idea many years ago through Denise Linn on one of her podcasts from her weekly show on Hay House Radio. Since then I have proven it to myself time and again, with positive and enduring results.

Are you willing to try it? What have you found? Any related suggestions? Talk to me!

[Beautiful photo of actual dust bunnies by psyberartist]

Aug 182010
 

Really? So I know the most important ingredient that will make you psychic? Yes!

And it’s not a crystal ball, nor is it any variety of oracles, your “special gifts”, attendance at a mystery school (i.e. the latest must-do seminar) nor even your fantastic teachers, as wonderful as they all may be.

There is one thing above all else that psychic awareness requires, and it is…  drum-roll please… awareness! Now, doesn’t that just make too much sense?

And it’s not any special or tricky kind of awareness. It’s simply awareness.

We All Have Access All the Time

And here’s the best part: We obviously all have this natural ability to be aware, at least those of us who are conscious beings (and I assume you consider yourself a part of that group)! In fact, we cannot help but be aware — of something! This is not a magical ability held by only a special few that were “born with a gift”.

By refining and expanding upon this one simple quality, your intuitive or psychic skills will grow exponentially. Yet if it goes unnoticed, you will manage, of course, as you always have… but without the benefit of an integral part of your inborn guidance system.

I would even go so far as to say that operating without this element is a handicap that most people are living with. (Fortunately, some of us are wise enough to know better.)

If you begin to play with this idea, and play with being aware, it will become blatantly obvious that there are all kinds of information available to you all the time that you normally simply just don’t notice. Or if you notice it, you don’t pay it any mind.

We are often so focused on the task at hand, which usually involves thinking about something rather than participating in the moment, that there is not even a little crack for awareness of anything else to enter.

Perhaps an even better way to put it is that you just have to notice.

Explore Your Awareness to Increase Intuition

Here are a few elements of awareness that can help you put it in context and apply it to growing your intuition:

1) Intention goes a long way. This is such a simple and easy action that it’s easy to overlook the power of it. But taking a moment to intend to notice can make all the difference. Do it now. Intend to be aware and to notice whatever information can be helpful to you as you go through your day today. You can repeat this periodically but once is a good start, and it’s that simple!

2) Deliberate awareness strengthens your intuitive muscles. Taking time periodically to notice that you are aware and to notice what you are aware of will help you be more consciously aware even when you’re not doing it intentionally. (Does that make sense?) This is very important, otherwise the awareness remains at a subconscious level, where it can do things like make you feel uncomfortable but you don’t know why.

So it’s very helpful to occasionally take a moment to break from what you are doing and simply be here now.

When you do this, use all your senses. Look around and see what’s going on in your environment. Hear the birds singing? Feel the breeze on your arm? Notice any smells? Do you have any tastes in your mouth? Do a quick scan from head to toe: What does your body feel like physically?  How are you feeling emotionally? Is there any thought that pops into this empty space you are creating? Or anything you seem to just know? Note all of these things.

This is often where practical observations are made, and do not ignore these just because they don’t seem intuitive. Our sixth-sense is common sense! If your body is cramped, get up and move around or take a good stretch! Thirsty? Get a drink of water! Besides, taking these mini-breaks gives your creativity a little space to breathe. More often than not, this will in turn lead to great ideas, inspiration, and yes, even intuition about what you were doing that you wouldn’t have had if you had just sat there. (Which is what just happened to me and thus why I have added this suggestion. Tee hee.) But seriously, I benefit from this all the time.

3) There are a few layers or levels to awareness that it’s helpful to be, well, aware of. I think of them as depth and breadth.

a) Focusing provides the depth. If you want to get an impression of something in particular you would rest your attention easily on that thing (or person or situation) and see what you notice. Stay open to anything. You can ask yourself pointed questions about it. In other words, probe. Allow your attention to go more deeply than your normal senses might take you.

b) Opening provides the breadth, and to do this you can intentionally expand your awareness to the peripheries and beyond. For example, as it relates to sight, let your eyes rest on the wall (or area) in front of you and see what you might notice literally in your peripheral vision. Here again, notice what you are physically seeing but also let yourself see with your mind’s eye. Do some areas seem “dark”? Especially lively? Icky? Attractive? Are any calling for your attention in some way? Notice all these things.

And while practicing both of these, have confidence in your experience and above all, don’t judge it. Just notice it for now. These perceptions are actually coming from within and without (as if there is a difference, but you know what I mean). They are packed with information and making them conscious can help keep you clear as well.

4) Remain open to surprises. Sometimes intuition or psychic awareness is not so much triggered by deliberate attention as a casual or unexpected noticing. Especially notice those quick little thoughts — and especially non sequiturs — that flit across your mind. They are often a message, and quite an obvious one.

5) And finally, notice what you notice! Really! This might sound silly but there is usually a good reason for you to be noticing one thing over another. It’s not always so apparent at the time, but if you make a note of these things, it’s not uncommon to later realize that it was relevant to something going on in your life. If you can catch the relevance at the time, all the better.

So those are some of my basic thoughts about how expanding our awareness in general can greatly enhance our intuitive awareness. These suggestions are intended as exercises and to open some new channels in your habitual modes of experiencing. You may not get any big ahas while doing them, especially the first few times, but I can guarantee that if you play around with these ideas and activities enough, you will begin to notice some very interesting and applicable things right away.

If and when you try these things out, I would love to hear what you find! So do let us know how it went, okay? Or anything to add? Suggestions? Comments? All of the above are welcome!

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